“Hello, my love, and, my love, Goodbye…” Leonard Cohen’s lyrics have been floating through my mind as I say goodbye to my clients this month. Monday marks the closing of my private psychotherapy practice. In the 23+ years that I’ve seen clients there have been so many hellos and goodbyes.
As I’ve said goodbye for hour after hour I’ve also reflected about the hellos we’ve shared: hello to the bravery of wounded folks who know that happiness is possible, hello to the insights that change one’s stories about oneself and the world, hello to the exuberant inner child who emerges when the adult self learns how to protect her or him.
And goodbye to old obsolete fears, goodbye to distorted self images, goodbye to acting like one doesn’t count.
Without endings there are no beginnings, points out my teacher Thich Nhat Hanh. So as Leonard Cohen says, “May everyone live, and may everyone die. Hello, my love, and, my love, Goodbye.”
But my favorite lyric from Here It Is is this: “And here is the love, That it’s all built upon.”